I thought I was doing something wrong but after 3 days of this, I figured it out.
ALso, when you put it on the way I did, there is no pressure on the shock until you open the door, so I made a spacer with 5/16 tapped hole thru it, then when the hinge was all the way into the door jam without the studs on it, thats where I eyeballed the hole up at.. THere is no pressure on the spacer you can get your arm in there to hold it, then I just drilled the hole from the inside of the car to the outside, you could get fancy and counter bore the hole on the inside to make it smooth, I just used a longer bolt 2.5 inches that bolted to the spacer. THen after that, you grab the hinge and pull it thru, just about when it pokes thru the wall of the car, it starts putting pressure on the shock, then is collapses around a inch, then when opened up all the way its collapsed around a inch also. It goes out then in then out as the door opens.THis makes it easy to install after the body is on. The machined notch in the hinge faces the inside of the car. Shock is attached on the other side.